Had to get this off my chest:

Life is about choices. No matter what human behavior you wish to discuss, it is governed by a combination of nature, nurture, and most importantly, your free will.

Nature is what factors you are born with. These may influence you, but they do not control you. You are not a machine, helpless against your programming.

Nurture are those factors from your environment, such as your upbringing, your education, and your friends. These also influence you, but they don't dictate who you are.

Free will is the most important factor because nature and nurture must eventually give way to what you decide. Too many people seek to eradicate free will from the equation, claiming they are helpless to change who they are. They choose the path of victimhood as opposed to responsibility.

We are not machines, coded into a certain mode that we cannot alter. Think a pacifist cannot become a ruthless killer who loves to kill? They can, given the right circumstances and influences. Think someone could never like pizza with anchovies? Given the right circumstances, they could. Almost any of your behaviors, likes/dislikes can be altered (otherwise propaganda, brainwashing, peer pressure, etc. would not exist). Some may take more effort to change and of course, it depends on how much you want to resist or encourage that change.

So, don't live your life as a victim, looking for pity and sympathy. Take control of your life. You may not be the person I would want you to be. I may not be the person you may want me to be. But at least have the courage and pride to stand up and tell the world "I am who I have chosen to be." Not "what my genes made me" or "what my parents made me" or "what my friends made me" or anything else.

Don't throw away your free will for a crutch or an excuse. You are the one who ultimately decides who you want to be.

Choose.